My daughter has poor choice in men!

Hey Rosie,

I am so upset! My daughter keeps picking these losers and I can’t get it! She dated this guy who kept going to jail for petty theft. He would lie to her constantly, steal and be verbally abusive to her. Thankfully he’s in jail for the next seven years, and she finally dropped him. Now she’s hooked up with this guy who is “between jobs”, never could pay for their dates, hits her up for cash and has two baby mothers. Oh, my husband and I are so upset! She is educated, pretty and has a great job. Why can’t she find someone suitable? I think because she’s reserved they take advantage of her. How can I get it through to her that she can do better?

Mad

Dear Mad,

I can hear your frustrations, my friend, and this is one of those challenges that you can guide her, but you can’t make her drink. You get what I am saying?

Short of taking her boyfriend for a drive in the country, telling him off and leaving him there (yes I am terrible), she will have to make the final decisions for herself. Just based on your letter, I’ve gathered that you have had this conversation about her being worth more than what she is settling for. So now you will have to wait and let her go through this phase of deciding what she is willing to put up with. I am sure that she has her own inner struggles about the direction her life seems to be heading in. So perhaps you can suggest that she can go and talk to a professional.  

Again, she has to have her own “light bulb” moment. The more you show your annoyance is the more she will remain with this unworthy suitor. So be supportive, not pushy. Good luck, Mommy, patience is a virtue.

Rosie

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