I am attracted to both a boy and a girl
Hey Rosie,
I really, really need your help. I am a 16-year-old female who is in love with a 17-year-old boy.
I am bi-sexual. I have passion for this boy badly. He is all I want. Sometimes I feel like having sex with him, because I feel I have had him waiting for a long time. On the other hand, I love a 14-year-old girl. She is really mature for her age. Everyday, I tell her how I feel towards her.{{more}} But she doesnât take me on, and it hurts me so badly. She tells me she canât be with me because i am too girly; she dates girls who act like boys. My highest interest is to be with this girl. I am always there for her. It really hurts me to see that I am always at her side and she doesnât want be with me. My only wish is to be with her. Sometimes I just sit and cry to see that I am always there for her and she canât be mine. I really need her so badly that I donât do my homework, just thinking about her.
Please Help
Dear Please Help,
Your situation is complicated at the very least! Again I am NOT here to judge your sexual orientation, but I AM here to discuss how you are handling the situation at this time. Please seriously explain to me why are you putting yourself through this kind of drama at 16? You are sexually attracted to a 17-year-old boy and you are leaning towards having sex with him because heâs been waiting a long time? Then, on the other hand, you are seriously attracted to a 14-year-old girl but she isnât equally into you. So you go over the top and try to win her affections to no avail? This is not healthy at all. You have to sit down and take a long and serious look at yourself.
Iâm sorry, but I canât co-sign with all of this back and forth in terms of wanting to be with both of these people. First off, having sex with someone because you think they have waited long enough for sex is absolutely ridiculous and also unnecessary. Why would you sell yourself short and have such a casual encounter sexually? You can curb this desire and channel that energy in another direction.
Then we have the other half of this story in terms of your 14-year-old girl -âfriendâ, why are you pursuing and pushing this issue? She has made it clear to you that sheâs not interested. Youâre going out of your way and doing everything to please her and she is still not interested. Please learn to take ânoâ for an answer. She may even be enjoying your attention and still have no intention to date you.
So all the signs in your life may be saying to you to âBe still and find yourselfâ. You have a lot of unanswered questions about where you are going in your life and what kind of person you are going to be. You still have your education and career to think about, instead of being caught up in this drama. Invest the same time and energy in yourself for a bigger and brighter future. Refocus your goals, speak to a counselor and make yourself priority #1.
Rosie
Send questions to Rosie at: heyrosie24@yahoo.com or P.O Box 152, Kingstown, St. Vincent & the Grenadines.
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