I really like my friend’s 10-year-old brother!

Hey Rosie,

I am so confused at the moment, and I really need your help! My best friend’s brother is a really sweet guy, and we get on really well. We went to a disco together the other week, and we had a fantastic time dancing together. But, the whole time, I kept catching his eye, seeing him look at me and smile. It makes me begin to think that I really like him!{{more}} But the thing is, I feel really weird, because he is 10, and I’m 14, but he’s one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever met, and you don’t get any guy who actually acts so mature.

The problem is, I told my best friend, knowing that I should be honest with her… But now, she is totally scared off by me, and she doesn’t even want to talk to me anymore! I’m really missing her… But, I just don’t know what to do, whether to try and hide all my feelings away from her brother, and stay away from him for a while, and try get my best friend back… Or whether to try and see how it goes with her brother… Really, no idea what to do.

PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

Dear Please Help Me,

My young friend, I have to say that I am still often surprised by the type of drama that you my younger readers go through. I was really thrown off by your ages, the story, the venue that you guys were hanging out in at that age – a disco? I vividly remember my days (yes, the good “old” days), but it’s hard for me to not think how things used to be…a disco at 10? Ha ha, the first time I ever saw Aquatic Club, I was 17, and it was my graduation ball, but I digress.

I am going to be honest with you here; this is not a good idea. You are 14, which is young to begin with, for any type of relationship; you are now adding even more explosives by considering a little boy who is 10! This is bad, really bad, morally, socially, mentally, and, of course, emotionally. The thing is, he’s a kid, as a mature as he seems to be, that doesn’t change that fact. In addition to that, you are only 14, but it’s a lifetime of experience between you both. To then wrap this up, your friend is very much disturbed because she can’t believe that you and her brother could even be attracted to each other. So you will have to give her some time to wrap her head around this one.

We can’t help who we are attracted to, but we sure can decide what we do about it. I am not bashing you for having these feelings, because he must be something special, but he isn’t for you at this time…sorry. Let this go, please. No good can come of it at this point. Only turmoil within the family, your good friend and mostly yourselves. I would try to speak to your friend, smooth over this rift, as best as you can, explain to her that you never meant for this to happen and you hope that you both can work on your relationship.

Love, it’s okay. Life throws you some loops and curves, but it’s to see how well you can dance pass the challenges. So keep it moving and you will be fine.

Rosie

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