My boyfriend doesn’t like spending time with me

Hey Rosie,

I just have to say that your articles help me alot in my relationship. I am 19-years-old. My boyfriend is two years older than me, which I always wanted. I know he loves me and I love him, but I am just wondering why he doesn’t like to spend anytime with me, or if he does, it’s for a short period of time.{{more}} He mostly likes to be around his friends, which I have no problem with, but he’s not giving me all the attention that he used to. We are together for one year and some months.

I need your advice.

Dear I need your advice,

Sometimes actions speak louder than words. By no means am I trying to be hurtful, but it would seem that your boyfriend may have emotionally moved on.

I think it is great that you are not a “clinger”, i.e. a woman who has to follow up on every move her man makes. Calling his phone, showing up at his hang out spots, stalking his friends. This isn’t a good look at all. The fact that you said that you don’t mind him hanging out with his friends shows that you have a healthy outlook about your relationship and relationships in general.

I do agree that one year is still early for this type of indifference. Is there another piece of this puzzle that you may not have shared? The bottom line is that if after talking to him and letting him know that you aren’t happy with the status quo and still nothing changes, it may be time for you to move on.

Remember you are ONLY 19. He is the first of many suitors out there who will want to vie for your attention. Press forward; continue with your own social life with your friends and family. Focus on school and where you are going. If your boyfriend isn’t along for the ride, then maybe you should let him off at the next stop. Why take someone for a ride in your life who doesn’t want to be a passenger? Good Luck in the coming year.

Rosie

Send questions to Rosie at: heyrosie24@yahoo.com or P.O Box 152,

Kingstown, St. Vincent & the Grenadines.