I am afraid of my husband
Hey Rosie,
I am a wife and the mother of a 6-year-old daughter. My husband and I have been married for 7 years and we live in Canada. This is my second marriage and we were happy until now. Rosie, I donât want to say he has changed, but it may seem so…or just maybe I am seeing his true colours.{{more}}
He has since become abusive to and unattached from me. He insults me every chance I get, in front of the children (I have two more from my first husband: a boy who is 15 and my daughter who is 11). My husband plays mind games with the children and tells them that they donât have to listen to me because I am nothing, Rosie. So they in turn are very disrespectful and that hurts so much to see him doing this.
If he continues, what kind lesson are they learning? Iâm scared. Rosie, I thought of leaving but I am scared to break up my family again. My oldest son is not happy with the way I am being treated and my daughters are very rude and dispesctful to me. I am afraid of my husband because he is so angry lately, and I donât know what to do.
Scared
Dear Scared,
Do not be afraid. You have taken your first step, and that is to acknowledge that you are in a very toxic relationship. Time and time again I talk about what we should never accept …and that is being abused. Be it verbally/mentally or physically. There is NO place in your life for this mess!
You are the mother of three children who are looking at your every move to see how you are going to handle this very ugly situation. Frankly, I am not truly interested in when and what has caused him to be come this very loathsome person, I am interested in finding out what your game plan is.
Staying and letting him belittle you in front of the children, chip away at your authority and ultimately make you feel like a second class citizen is not acceptable. There are times that I say, talk to the person, go to counseling, reach out etc. But when the lives of your children are being changed day by day, respect is out the door and you are afraid, itâs time to LEAVE!!!
Confide in a trusted family member, seek legal advice, have a financial game plan and also start rebuilding your self esteem. Self esteem is one thing NO ONE can take from you. Start by showing your children that this is NOT a healthy example of a relationship and you will also not be tolerating their attitudes as well. Maybe you may have a positive male relative who can step in to show your son how a true man handles his business, by showing his family respect in public and behind closed doors. Reach out to those in your trusted circle and let them know you need their help. I am sure there are many hands reaching back. Stay in touch, and may God be with you.
Rosie
P.S. Hereâs a good site: http://tinyurl.com/23kqxaf
Send questions to Rosie at: heyrosie24@yahoo.com or P.O Box 152, Kingstown, St. Vincent & the Grenadines.
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