Run for your life!
Dear Rosie
Iâve read all your articles in the newspaper and every one of them is very cool. Iâm an 18-year-old girl who is with a 20-year-old boy that I love so much. Rosie, I donât know what to do thatâs why Iâm asking for your help right away. Sometimes Iâve been accused for nothing and everyone is on me. I even get blamed for every single thing. I canât go on at all and live my life like he does. When I tell him not to go certain places, he ends up going anyway and when shout comes, I canât go. Itâs like heâs got a hold on me.{{more}} He even stole my pride and dignity and guess what? Heâs denying it, and then heâs saying that if heâs stupid that wouldnât he know what he did that day.
Our relationship is dysfunctional and I do not know where we stand with this thing called love. We were both happy couples when I moved down with my family permanently, but now, itâs like the happiness is not there at all. One second Rosie itâs love, then itâs a battlefield and the worst part of the relationship is that he beats me! Why? Because of all the rumors he is hearing from people and they are not true. He doesnât even trust me, not even 10% of trust I gain from him and he gains all of my trust. I love this guy so bad I want to be with him forever. Please help me, Iâm looking for your advice.
Where we stand with love
Dear Where we stand with love,
Girl, what are you saying to me? If you normally read my advice you know where Iâm going with this. Run, run for your dear YOUNG life, please! You are only 18 years old and you are in an abusive relationship!
What? He doesnât trust you? Who cares? I know this is coming off really strong, but I want to grab your attention here. These are your own words: âOur relationship is dysfunctional and I do not know where we stand with this thing called loveâ. You said it all. It is very dysfunctional, and toxic I might add. At 18, Iâm hoping you have a game plan to continue your education and see what great things this world has to offer. Not settle to be the door mat in some manâs life – a man from your description who doesnât seem to respect you, much less even love or like you. Love doesnât hurt physically or emotionally.
Also, why is this fool hitting you? Do you have brothers or male cousins you can introduce him to? Look, the very next time he touches you, tell someone in your family or circle immediately! Then I would also tell the Police. No one, no one must ever lay hands on you, and vice-versa as well. This is really upsetting me because you really need someone in your immediate circle to mentor and guide you. This is not the making of any normal or healthy relationship. There is nothing to salvage. Nothing.
My girl, first things first. Look at yourself long and hard in the mirror and acknowledge that God makes no mistakes. So, therefore, in his eyes you are perfect. Then secondly tell yourself that you deserve and you will get better than this person. Then finally realize that you MUST love yourself first before you can expect someone to love you. Just like breathing, you have to do it for yourself. No one else can do it for you.
Did I mention R-U-N? Put on your jogging shoes and find a new path in which you can escape. Remember you are too young, too full of promise and most of all a child of God to be settling. Wish your man adieu and hello to the new you. May you see and find the strength from within. We all have it if we walk in faith. Much, much love and a hug from me, because you can succeed. I have faith in you.
Rosie
Send questions to Rosie at: heyrosie24@yahoo.com or P.O Box 152, Kingstown, St. Vincent & the Grenadines.
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