Hey Rosie!
August 28, 2009

So much drama already?

Hey Rosie,

My man and I have been together for about six years now, since I was about fifteen.

He’s my everything. He is sailing now and sends me money to live on. The problem Rosie is that he has another girl who is having his kid. I just found out from his mother.{{more}} She is happy because she never liked me. He hasn’t told me about the baby yet. The other girl and I live in the same village and she doesn’t know I know. I want to confront her. Should I stay with him and should I go and tell this girl off? Thanks, Rosie.

He’s mine

Dear He’s mine,

After reading your letter I can’t help but think, “She’s only 21 with so much drama already!” My friend, you are too young for all this unnecessary nonsense. Forgive me, but it is nonsense.

Do you really love your boyfriend or are you just happy with the financial set up he is giving you? If you both were in a totally committed relationship, he would not have potentially gotten another young lady pregnant.

Then with regard to your wanting to go and “approach” the other woman, definitely not! Stay away from her. She is carrying a child and must have her own issues right now. She doesn’t need any unnecessary stress at the moment. The person you should be talking to is your boyfriend. Both of you have to have some “Real Talk” about the problems in your own relationship and where you go from here.

Lastly, what are you doing for yourself? Are you in school? Evening classes? Are you working and trying to become an independent adult, one who doesn’t have to depend on a guy for money to live? Remember what I said at the beginning. You are too young for all this drama. Be happy that you have your whole life ahead of you to live and succeed.

Here’s hoping you make the best and right choices for your life and future.

Rosie

Send questions to Rosie at: heyrosie24@yahoo.com or P.O Box 152, Kingstown, St. Vincent & the Grenadines.