My husband doesn’t like sex!

Dear Rosie

My problem is that I love to have sex and my husband doesn’t. So, I have been going to my friend’s house a lot to have sex with her and her husband. I know this is bad, but I get my satisfaction. I love my husband a lot, but he would leave me if he knew what we were doing. My friend is his cousin so he will be really upset because he trusts her.{{more}}

Help me, Rosie. I love my husband but he doesn’t give me enough attention in the bedroom and I don’t know what to do. Help me, please.

Waiting for your advice.

Help Me

Dear Help Me,

Forgive me, but I can’t believe what I’m reading! You are not only cheating on your husband, but you are having group sex with your husband’s cousin and her husband? Of course this is bad! On every level this is not right.

If you are unhappy with your sex life with your husband, you should let him know about your dissatisfaction. He should be given this opportunity to know about the problem in his marriage. This is where two mature adults sit down and discuss their problems. This has not happened here at all. So he is just left in the dark! Betrayal of the worst kind!

Now let’s discuss this group sex situation. Is it the excitement of doing something that is so obviously wrong that keeps you going back? Are you trying to get caught? What about your marriage and commitment to your husband? Not to mention the betrayal that you are engaged in a sexual triangle with his cousin and her husband? Come on. I am trying very hard here not to be upset, but you fully well know ALL of this is wrong!

If you are unhappy, leave. Normally, I like to encourage people to work through their issues, but you have added many poor elements here. It would take a lot of dedication to work through all of this. Firstly, are you willing to come completely clean with your husband? Then if by some miracle he is willing to work through this mess, are you willing to stop this behaviour?

Basically, all I can say is that this started with you. It must end with you. You went outside of your marriage seeking sexual gratification. You will have to be the one to stop it. No one else. I really, really do wish you all the best in making the correct choices. It is not just your life that is involved in this mess. You say you love your husband – do the right thing and stop playing these very dangerous games.

Rosie

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