I am not getting pregnant

Hey Rosie

I have been with this guy for 3 years. I have three children of my own, and for the past 2 1/2 years we have been trying to have a baby, but I am having a hard time getting pregnant. I don’t know if I am not getting pregnant because I had a tubal pregnancy before, but anyway I give him everything he wants because he does not work and he depends on me a lot.{{more}} Recently, however, he went to the islands and that is when he chose to tell me that some girl has a baby for him. I don’t know what to do because I really love him, so please, if you have any advice, I’d love to have it.

Jackie

Dear Jackie,

Let’s talk. The Lord has a way of speaking to us, but we sometimes choose not to listen. You are not in a place to have another baby at the moment. Why? For the simple reason you aren’t in a stable relationship. So why bring an innocent little one into the mix?

Secondly, what’s up with you? What about putting your energies into loving yourself and the three wonderful children you’ve been blessed to have? Why are you trying to commit and support a man who has cheated on you and has no regard or respect for you?

It takes a very special woman to raise three children, work and still find a place in your heart to share love with a deserving partner. However, at the moment your man may not be deserving of your love. Are you going to put him before your own happiness? I would hope not. You really should take some serious YOU time and decide if you are going to be the doormat in life or the door that decides who enters in? Think about it.

With regard to this baby you just found out about, that is ALL his responsibility. Not yours. He made his bed, so he must lie in it. Hopefully, he knows that he has to financially and emotionally support this baby.

Bottom line, do what you already know you have to do. Yes, you may miss him. But you stand to gain more by yourself. Focus on taking care of you and yours, become more stable financially and emotionally, then you can move forward. I know you can make the right choices for yourself. Wishing you all that is good in 2009.

Rosie

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