Hey Rosie!
September 12, 2008

Which one should I choose?

Hey Rosie,

I have a question for which I would love to get an answer. I am a single woman and haven’t been dating for the past year. I’m from SVG but I live in the U.S.A. I met two guys who I knew from back home. One is married and the other is not. They are both interested in me.{{more}} I told the one that is married that I don’t have relations with married men. He said to leave it up to him – I am not interested in that, while the other one, although he has someone, I think that I will give him a chance, as I do have feelings for him. What I do like about him is he is not in a rush, while the married one is asking me in full for what he wants.

Please give me an answer.

What To Do

Dear What to Do,

Safe to say you are on the right track! The married man is NOT for you! Whenever you hear a man say “leave it up to him”, you know you will be waiting until ducks have teeth! They never leave their wives for the other woman. Never. This is something that I wish we as women will keep in the back of our minds. Never think you look better, are more talented (in and out of the bedroom) or he is happier with you. Also, never take a man or woman for that matter away from another, especially their spouse, because it will never be a sound relationship moving forward.

So we are now onto contestant # 2. He is in a relationship, but is interested in you and you in him. This man seems to have “game” also. He is not pressuring you, but what does he say about the woman he is with? I am talking to you as a friend here and would like you to take a ride on my bus for a minute. Why become the “other” woman? My thing is, until his relationship is completely over, you are going to be hurt. He will never be able to give you 100 per cent of his time. I want more for you. If you really like this guy, ask him point blank what are his plans on ending the other relationship. If he cannot give you a straight answer, I think you should move on before you become more emotionally involved, or even a little one enters the picture.

Rosie

I want you to be happy, fully happy, not a shared, sometimey happiness which isn’t yours alone. So as I drop you off at a new destination, take my directions as to how you should proceed. Let me know what happens. Many blesings to you my friend!

Rosie

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