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Dr Jozelle Miller
September 17, 2019

How to overcome the hatred of others?

Dealing with hatred from others can be difficult and draining. Especially if someone is openly hateful toward you, it can make you feel bad about yourself and affect your self-esteem. Be positive in your approach and cope with your stress and emotions. Make any necessary changes, if possible, to get along better with others and smooth any problems.
Tip 1: Take a positive approach
Remove hateful people from your life. As hard as it may be to block people from your life, hateful people are only going to bring negativity. Distance yourself from them and instead focus on positive relationships.
l Set boundaries with people who bring negativity to your life. Don’t answer their phone calls or texts, and avoid making plans with them.
l Regularly call, text, and visit with the people who are positive influences in your life.
Embrace who you are. Learn to love yourself first and foremost. If you don’t feel confident in yourself, then everyone’s opinions about you tend to matter more than they should. Learn to accept yourself fully as you are. Confront any parts of yourself you feel ashamed of and learn to extend love to all of yourself.
l When you fully love yourself, the opinions of others matter less and less.
l People only take the hate they receive from others personally if they believe that it may be true on some level. You may secretly feel that way about yourself. You can work through these issues with a therapist or a self-help book.
Lean on family and friends. Whether you need to vent your frustrations, talk about your problems, or ask for a hug, know that you can go to family and friends for support. They don’t have to fix your problems or even offer solutions, they just have to be good listeners. If possible, make time together in-person instead of over the phone or through email or text.
Focus on positive things. If you feel like your haters are getting you down, set your mind on happier things. Think positively and approach unpleasant situations in a productive way. Practice positive self-talk and surround yourself with other positive people. You should also create a positive living environment for yourself, such as a clean home that is decorated in a way that you like.
Cope with stress. If you’re having a hard time dealing with stress, try calming and relaxing activities. Calmly releasing your emotions instead of bottling them up can help you get along better with others and feel more peace. Practice relaxation exercises, like daily yoga exercises and meditation.
Spread compassion and kindness. Be the kind of person people look up to and respect. If people are spreading hate about you, be purposeful in spreading kindness toward others. Treat people kindly, even if they are rude or mean to you. You don’t need to become a doormat, you just need to respond in gentle and kind ways.
Talk to a therapist. If you’re struggling to cope with the hatred and are having a hard time on your own, try talking to a therapist. A therapist can help you make sense of what you’re thinking and feeling. They can also help you learn ways to cope with your feelings in a safe and effective way. Your therapist will listen to you, support you, and give you feedback.

“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.”      Will Smith

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