How to deal with an internal conflict
It is extremely important that we learn how to deal with our internal conflict; in an effort to alleviate some unbearable emotions.
Tips to end inner conflicts:
1) Don’t violate your values: One major source of such internal conflicts is the violation of your own values. When you move against what you believe in your subconscious mind will do its best to bring you back to the right track and as a result your mind will start fighting itself. Do your best to stick to what you believe in, and if it happened that you violated any of your values just make sure you don’t make the same mistake again. The internal conflict usually happens when there is constant violation of values almost every day and not when a small mistake happens.
2) Do what you are supposed to do: The other major source of internal conflicts is escaping from the tasks you are supposed to do. Your beliefs, goals and values will always imply that you act in a certain way. Failure to keep up to the expectations you have of yourself, or procrastinating, instead of taking actions, always results in serious internal conflicts.
3) Write the conflict down: One of the best ways to offload unwanted emotions from our brain is to write them down. When you write down your thoughts you will feel as if you have dumped your emotions on the paper. In addition to the relief you will feel, you will also get much more self understanding that will help you figure out the best method you need to use in order to resolve that conflict.
4) Always be time conscious: When you get older or pass from one major life phase to another (for example moving from school to college or college to work) you will always find yourself measuring your progress in life with your peers. Now if you were prepared for that moment by having a plan that you are following, then most probably you won’t get affected, but if you weren’t prepared, then you will get an internal conflict whenever you move on to a new phase in your life. Avoid comparisons with others and seek to improve yourself each day.
“Peace is not absence of conflict; it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” Ronald Reagan