My 16-year-old has a girl pregnant – Mom
Hey Rosie,
I just found out that my 16-year-old son may have gotten a girl pregnant!
Rosie, Iâm freaking out! The girlâs mother wants to meet my husband and I to talk. Rosie, about what? I donât even know if this is my sonâs kid. I keep crying, because I feel as though heâs thrown away his future. How do I deal with this mess? They werenât even dating; just friends with benefits. Iâm so upset!
Help me
Dear Help me,
I truly feel your pain! I know you feel that the wind was taken out of your sails, but take a couple deep breaths â it will all work out in the long run. Trust me.
Yes, heâs very young and really shouldnât be dealing with this potential fact, but he is. This is one of these life lessons that your son has to face. Unfortunately, when our kids enter into adult like activities and they themselves are still minors, we have to stand in the gap to help them quickly come to terms with what they may have to deal with.
In terms of the young ladyâs mother, you are going to have to be empathetic. She is as upset and disappointed as you, but at this stage you are going to have to be as calm as you can be while dealing with how you BOTH can support these young people through this pregnancy.
Now, when the baby arrives, then the issue of DNA can be dealt with. Again kindness, patience and empathy will see you all through a lot of this turmoil. Plus it will help set a stellar example to these confused young people who are looking for much needed guidance.
Good luck,
Rosie
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