I’m being misjudged: Am I being selfish?

Hi Rosie,

I’ve been having a rough time with a few people in my life: some are co-workers, in-laws and even siblings.

Everyone says that I am difficult to get along with, but I think it’s their issues, not mine. I know that I can be somewhat sensitive, but I think it’s them and not me.

Presently, I’m not getting along with my sister-in-law. She rubs me the wrong way and I can’t hide it. We actually avoid each other and sometimes we would miss family events because of the tension. Again, I’m told that I could do a little better in the way I communicate, but frankly, I think they are wrong and I’m tired trying.

Do you think I’m wrong? Be honest, Rosie.

Miss Judged

Hello Miss Judged,

I am going to keep my response as simple as possible – it’s you!  

Yes, ma’am; if you are being told by many different people in your life that you are difficult to get along with, there must be some truth to it.  

When reading through your letter, I can detect your defiance and sometimes dismissive arrogance that it’s “their problem” and it has nothing to do with you. But it has EVERYTHING to do with you! Keep in mind that no man is an island and we really do need one another – so you may want to seek some intense therapy and gain some insight as to why you are having all of these negative experiences with those in your inner circle.

Good luck with being honest with yourself.

Rosie