Should I confront my BFF?

Hi Rosie,

I just have a quick question about my BFF. She is talking behind my back and it’s coming back to me from different sources. What should I do? Should I confront her? Cut her off? Or ignore it? Some of it is hurtful, because she is sharing some private information that only she knows about me. 

Help Please

Dear Help Please,

Well, I think you will have to pick from one of those choices you mentioned in your letter and it really depends on how much of a “BFF” you consider her to be.

When someone betrays you, it is painful. You never look at them the same way again. You then have to decide if the relationship is worth your time and effort to begin with. Sometimes in life, relationships  can run their course as well. We outgrow our friendships and it dies a natural death – it could be distance, or a change in interest or you are just no longer into that person. This may have happened with your friend.

You also seem a little detached as well in this letter; could it be that you are also drifting apart from the friendship? Maybe her betrayal is too much and you are contemplating cutting her off anyway?  This call is totally up to you. There are no right or wrong answers when it comes to dealing with hurtful experiences in your relationships; you will just have to make the best choice for YOU.  I wish you luck, my friend.

 Rosie

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