I want to share my life with a meaningful partner

Hey Rosie,

 I am a professional single mother of a an 11-old girl.  Her father and I share custody and he is very good to her.  He has moved on, married and has additional kids.  I’ve had other relationships since we broke up seven years ago, but things never work out.

What is wrong with me, Rosie?  I’m successful, generous, a good mother and I would like to share my life with a meaningful partner. However, I keep meeting men who want to play and I don’t get it. I try to network with my friends, so I can meet new people, but I never meet someone who is worth going that extra mile with. In fact, I think some of them see me as a meal ticket, or they are not solid enough to introduce to my daughter. 

I’m about to throw in the towel here.

 Slim Pickings

Dear Slim Pickings,

One thing that I am curious about is how realistic are you when it comes to getting to know these men?  Are you setting unrealistic expectations from the outset? Sometimes, we are so anxious to get to the end result of the relationship, we miss taking our time and going through the little nuances of getting to know each other, which can be fun too. Men can tell if a woman has an agenda to be married at any cost. They sniff that out and then they disappear – which isn’t always a bad thing, because they may not have been the one for you to begin with. 

So, my advice to you is to relax.  Don’t be so hard and demanding on yourself.  I can sense the urgency in this letter and I am afraid that it translates to desperation and you are not that at all. Go out, meet people, chill out a bit and just observe and let life happen. When Mr Right shows up, not only will you know, he will too – which translates to him wanting  to stick around.

Good luck, my friend; don’t give up, there is someone out there for you.

 Rosie

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