I can’t seem to forgive my boyfriend for cheating on me

Hey Rosie,

My situation may seem simple, but it’s crippling me. I can’t seem to forgive my boyfriend for cheating on me with his ex. Granted it’s been three years and we did have counselling, but I can’t bring myself to completely forgive him and move forward. I keep crying and I can’t move forward. I love him, Rosie, but I can’t seem to move forward and he wants us to get married and put that behind us. I know it’s me, because he has apologized and done everything to make me feel better, but I am stuck. Please help me!{{more}}

Hopeless

Hello Hopeless,

Sometimes I feel the need just to give you a word of encouragement, as we ALL have so much on our day-to-day plate. We deal with so much, be it: relationships, finances, our jobs, health or even depression. So, these were my thoughts that I shared today on my social media page:

“Becoming unstuck can be harder than you think. We want more for ourselves and our families but we are rooted by fear and doubt. So many of us can soar even higher than we are at the moment, but we’ve convinced ourselves that this altitude is good enough. Meanwhile God has given us the clearance to go even higher. Play with that “stuck” throttle in your life and allow yourself to grow and climb to the heights that God has approved. Don’t allow your fears from living your life.

FYI fears come sometimes in the form of those closest to you as well, so be aware of who you surround yourself with.”

The bottom line, my friends, is that we want to blame our issues on the “other person”, “our job”, “lack of money”, etc. But we should really take a long hard look at ourselves and the fact we are not listening to that inner voice and guide. Take some time for yourself; be still, then really take stock regarding where you are and why you are stuck in your particular unwanted situation. You may then be surprised at the many positive changes and growth that await you.

Be encouraged, you are not alone. Faith requires deep and blind courage.

Be well,

Rosie