Slow it down – Don’t complicate your life yet

Hi Rosie,

I went away with my family on vacation to Europe as a graduation present and while we were in France, I met this gorgeous guy who is a son of my parents’ long-time friend. For whatever reason, we had never met before and he is an incredible man. He is 27, has a great career, kind, educated, generous, well travelled, no kids and speaks English well. He took my brother and me out to the clubs and sightseeing while we were there and we became very close. Rosie, he even came over to London with us for a few days and we continued growing closer.{{more}} My family has seen the attraction as well and is asking me what is going on. Well, I’m 24 and I am thinking about Grad school, but now this new development seems to be a mutual attraction and I want to see where it would lead. He wants me to come to England to attend Grad school, so I would be closer to him in France and I am very tempted. Am I crazy Rosie? Since I’ve been back in the States we Skype every day, text and call. It’s so intense and sudden; he’s all I can think about. What should I do?

Is this real?

Dear Is this real?

Hello! Well this is a romance story and Cupid had some kind of arrow that none of you saw coming, huh? You know, as always, whatever you do has to be totally up to you. But you may have to slow down for a few moments because this love story is very intense.

Let me ask you something: you only just met him from what I can gather and you are still in the “walking on air” part of this relationship; but would he do the same thing for you if the shoe were on the other foot? Is there anything preventing him from coming over to your neck of the woods and getting to know your family and friends a little better? Sometimes we can compromise and meet in the middle – especially in the beginning, because this is where the getting to know you process is so important.

Grad school is a must; please remember he is already established and has done his due diligence. So, in my opinion you have to do what’s best for you first. If he is as balanced as you claim he is, then he would understand your need to complete what you started with your education. Don’t complicate your life yet. Sit back and make the best choices for yourself first, then life has a way of falling into place. This doesn’t mean that you should not continue to enjoy each other’s company and learn more about each other, but slow it down a bit. I really do hope it works out in the long run; it sounds like you met a potential keeper! Continued success to you.

Rosie

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