My bf changed since he cheated

Hey Rosie,

I love your column. I am in a relationship with an attractive 28-year-old male. I am 22.

The problem is, he cheated on me and since then, things have changed. He would not let me kiss him; he limits me as to certain areas of his body; we don’t have sex the way we used to any more.{{more}}

Rosie, guess what? He doesn’t talk to me about things he plans on doing. Please help me. I really love him and want things to work out between us.

Hello my dear,

First of all thank you for your very kind words about the column, I really do appreciate it. Now let’s talk about your dilemma for a moment.

Let me say this first, HE cheated not you. HE is the one that is feeling very guilty and you shouldn’t be drawn into that at all. Many times when someone knows they have wronged another, they then start acting really funny and in my opinion, I see this going on here. So hear my question to you: Why are you so caught up with this man and he was the one that wronged you? His actions based on what you’ve written do not appear to be very apologetic or even showing you that he is trying to mend the trust that he broke.

As a young woman we can not be a man’s doormat – especially when you are being hurt emotionally or physically. In fact, the more you try to accommodate their poor behavior it’s the more they have no respect for you. Know that you deserve the very best and you should share your best with people who are deserving of your kindness and great qualities. Sit back and ask yourself if you truly should put up with this relationship. You are not married, no children, so therefore no ties. I don’t care how attractive he is and charming (when he’s ready), you deserve better. But as always I leave that ultimate choice to you.

I wish you the best and I am pulling for you.