I want to focus on my work

Hey Rosie,

I am an intelligent young lady who is seeking some advice. I am a 15 year old and I’m with this 20 year old guy whom I love so much, and am willing to do anything for.{{more}}

Rosie, we have been together for a very long time and I’m not that strong to give him up as yet. We are both living in the same village and I don’t really get a chance to see him as I really want to!! We talk online (not everyday) and he keeps telling me how much he misses me.

But, Rosie, my problem comes from all directions. In my home, I feel like I’m in prison! I can’t hang out with my friends, I can’t leave the house, only for school and church. It is so stressful, sometimes I even feel like running away and never coming back.

These problems are because of my mother. She hates my boyfriend and does not want me to have any contact with him. Rosie, I love this guy so much and he loves me a lot, too, but because we haven’t been seeing each other for a while, I found out that he is cheating on me. When I found out this, it broke my heart so much. Everyday, no matter where I go, I cry because I know what love is. The meaning of love to me is to love someone for who they are and not for what they have, not for sex, cause that can wait, but for someone who you can love, respect and take good care of you.

Rosie, since I found out that my boyfriend is now cheating, I can’t even focus on my school work anymore. I feel lost and like I’m nobody, and that’s one of my biggest problems. I WANNA FOCUS ON MY WORK so that I can get something out of life, but on the other hand, I love my boyfriend. Rosie, should I end the relationship and focus on my education?

This is not the first time I found out that he is cheating. This is the third time, and when I confront him about it, he tells me “He loves me too much to do such a thing,”. Rosie I don’t believe him, ‘cause I know how tricky men are today! I am tired of this stupidness he is carrying on with, but I love him and he loves me, too, but what should I do? Do you think I should break up with him or should both of us see a counselor? Should I deal with the girl he is messing around with?

I NEED SOME ADVICE ROSIE…PLEASE HELP

God bless you.

Stressed Teen

Dear Stressed Teen,

Right out the gate, let me give you my answer: Leave this MAN alone, please! Let me talk to this man and men like him for one moment. Why are you dealing with young girls (children)? It’s not like she’s 20 and you are 25, she’s 15! Do you realize that makes you a predator? You are causing so much havoc in these girls’ lives it’s not fair to them. So do the world a favor and find a woman your age!

Back to you, my friend, you are too bright to be sucked into this drama! Really, now, let’s break it down, ok?

Why are you with this Old Man? Yes, I said it! He’s too old for you at this time, plain and simple! Leave him!

Why are you giving him the power to make you cry and depressed? Are you serious? Leave him!

He is causing you to slip in school. School, your ticket to the BIGGER things in life, and he’s making you lose focus? What am I going to say? You got it, leave him!

You are blaming your mother? Believe me when I say I understand Mother/Daughter Drama, I wrote the book my friend! However, even before I left my teenage years, I realized that SHE was right and I was an IDIOT! We think they don’t know, but they travelled this road before you and are only being lionesses protecting their cubs. Respect that. Oh, yes, and I forgot to say, “Leave him!”

Finally, what kind of counseling you think this “tricky man” who has cheated on you at least three times needs to be in with you? Are you married? Also, never stoop to the level of confronting other girls, because I know you weren’t raised like that, and you know better. Leave him!

So, in conclusion, your new game plan is to cry a little more and then write him a goodbye letter of what all he’s done to you, put it in an envelope and either burn it, bury it or throw it away. This exercise is a great way to have closure. Once you do this, don’t go back and forth with him. Give yourself a chance for a new chapter in your life. Also, even getting to observe and bond with your mother some more. I am only letting you know that you have too much to lose going down this path. It is not worth it. You are too precious. Oh, yes, did I mention…Leave Him! Much love, my girl.

Rosie

Send questions to Rosie at: heyrosie24@yahoo.com or P.O Box 152,

Kingstown, St. Vincent & the Grenadines.