I am afraid to lose him

Hey Rosie

First of all, I would like to say I enjoy reading your columns in the Searchlight Newspaper.

I’m 19-years-old and have been with this guy who I love very much. We were together for eight months. And Rosie, I think he is the one. I have this habit of playing men, Rosie, and sad to say, this is my first serious relationship.{{more}} I cheated on him three times, and one night I confessed to him. Rosie, he was sooo sad.

I felt so bad about what I did because I love him a lot, but then again I’m afraid to lose him. I really love him and don’t want to lose him, but since I told him he has not talked to me since.

Please, I need advice, Rosie. Tell me what you think I should do.

Regret

Dear Regret,

I’m glad that you enjoy reading the column, so you would already know where I’m going next, right?

Ahhh, young love, how wonderful… until you mess up! The one thing that I would give you is that you ARE honest about your major flaw of “playing” guys.

Now, what to do? Again, I also give you more credit that you came clean and told your boyfriend that you cheated on him three times. (with the same person?) But that is where the credit ends! What’s up with you and this flirting with other guys when you are seeing someone? Is it the attention that you get that makes it exciting? Do you normally have a lot of fellas hitting on you, so you play this cat and mouse game with them? Whatever the reason, this behavior isn’t cool.

Let me tell you somethin: Break this bad habit now. If you don’t you will begin to have this reputation as being a flirt, or easy or even a tease. These types of reputations are hard to shake. Also, let me put it to you this way: If someone came and did the same thing to you, it would not go down well.

So, your boyfriend isn’t speaking to you? You can understand this, though. He is hurt and betrayed. At this point, the ball is out of your court, and there isn’t a thing that you can do. Give him his space, because I’m sure you’ve pleaded your case a few times. He is not in a good place with you at this time. If you are fortunate enough for him to approach you to talk to you again, he may have real trust issues with you moving forward.

Consider this a lesson learned very early in life. Conduct yourself in a way where it doesn’t come back to bite you. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. Finally, in every painful experience, there is a lesson. Hopefully, this one will stick for life. Be well. Be good.

Rosie

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