Hey Rosie,

I am a beautiful girl attending secondary school. I am 17-years-old and I am in fifth form.

I love this boy so much, but he has a girl friend. This boy is 21-years-old, and he works.

He is around me every second of his life; he sleeps and eats by me.

I know he loves me because he tells me that every day. We started going out a long time ago.{{more}} We have had this thing going on for a long time now. My parents love him, even my brothers and sister, but I can’t see what’s the problem, because if he tells me that he loves me and on the other hand, he has a girl, I don’t know what is he going to do. I would do any thing for this boy. But from since this year started, he told me that he wants to stop living the life of having two women, because he can’t have two lovers in his life. I can’t stop thinking about this boy. He went a long way with me and now he wants to turn back. I do every thing he tells me to do. I want him to be the love of my life. He also encourages me to study hard for my CXC subjects, and he said that I must make sure I go to college, as that is his best dream for me. I don’t want to tell my parents that it’s over because they would be mad, and that’s the last thing I want them to be. I am confused and need advice. Can you help me please?

Miss Confused

Dear Miss Confused,

If you think you are confused, well I am too! What, your boyfriend is 21? He has another woman? Your parents like and accept him? He sleeps and eats at your house and YOU are only 17? No, no, this isn’t going to work, no matter how much you will try. Sorry, but that is the truth.

Let’s unwrap your story, shall we? At 17 you are in the middle of an active love triangle with a 21-year-old man. He tells you that he loves you; you say that you love him and would do anything for him. Meanwhile, you are on the brink of finishing High School, taking subjects and becoming a young independent adult. I don’t care how much he says he loves you. I’m sure he loves ice-cream as well. I am also disappointed that your parents aren’t setting a different example for you, because I would not encourage this relationship if you were my child. Lastly, why do you want to be with a man who has his own confusion regarding who he wants to be with? To me this in unacceptable. Also, are you having sex with this man as well? If you are, you are really playing with fire. There are diseases (I’m sure he’s sleeping with the other girl), pregnancy and, of course, the life changer HIV or AIDS. Please stop this now.

You are not going to be happy to hear this, but I think this a HUGE mistake. I am asking you to be the one to pull out of this situation. As the female, you must set the standard by which you want to be treated. This is so important for all of us women to know. If you look at where you are in life and honor your self value, you would quickly realize that you are worth more than this. School is very overwhelming as it is, and this adult type of confusion isn’t necessary at any point in your life. This is much too overwhelming for you at this time. Good Luck.

Rosie

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